It’s not just limited to TTC, we encourage all situations (adoption, surrogacy, PCOS, Endo, IVF etc), and I love how us women come together when it means receiving something in the mail that’s totally personalised, who doesn’t love receiving goodies in the post?
Before I share how to sign up, let me answer a few commonly asked questions about these exchanges:
Why a lucky charm?
Lucky charms are one of those things most of us carry around regularly during fertility, women struggling with infertility tend to have a lot of doctors appointments, which we are nervous, anxious or just need that reassuring push to help us along. Lucky charms are a way to bring your TTC Sisters with you to your appointments and remind you that you have a community behind you wherever you may be. Regardless of where you are at in your journey, lucky charms are the best! Pop in your handbag to take to your court dates with your adoptive family, wear on your wrist during IVF procedures or take to the hospital when you are giving birth or late at night while you are nursing your new little miracle. You just can’t go wrong with a little bit of love in your pocket! (Plus they are light weight and easy to find and post)
Who can participate?
Anyone who is currently trying to get pregnant, including those suffering from secondary infertility; those who have recently adopted, are in the process of adopting or searching for their new family member; anyone who is currently pregnant after dealing with infertility or recently having had a baby after a struggle and lastly, anyone who is using a gestational carrier, egg donor, sperm donor or surrogate. Even if you are taking a break right now, we would still love for you to join us! I know that breaks are a KEY part of this rollercoaster ride, you still absolutely need a lucky charm!
Please note that I will do my best to partner you with someone who is in a similar stage as you are, however as this grows I cannot guarantee it. You may be partnered with someone in any category so I ask that you remember that the purpose of this is to encourage another TTC sister, no matter what their story is!
How does it work?
Once you sign up and get the name of the person you are sending to (more details below), the two of you will connect via email and then you will work to put together an exchange box for them, including a lucky charm. You will be given a “send-by” date and I ask that you respect that date unless there are extreme circumstances.
How much is this going to cost me?
Typically the suggested amount per box is £20 inclusive of postage. I don’t advise that you spend more than £20 but we definitely do have some generous women who put together a box worth more. Since charms don’t typically cost £20 you are able to fill the package with ANYTHING else that might make someone smile! A cute notepad, a special treat,confectionary, a fun lipgloss or nail polish …. You can’t go wrong!
It helps tremendously to ship your package via Royal Mail tracked and get a tracking number just in case anything should happen during transit. (Plus it comes with insurance!) I advise that you take a picture of the receipt once you send it so you have the tracking number handy, even sending it to your partner so they know when to expect it.
Besides a pair of lucky charm is there anything else I HAVE to include?
A note and a box worth about £20. Nothing else too specific – have fun with this! I just love that everyone includes card inside with a special word of encouragement for your new friend.
I live in the US/Canada/UK/Australia/etc, can I participate?
Yep! We always have women from all over the world participate and I think that is what makes it so much fun! HOWEVER, you will only be assigned an overseas person if you agree to be open to shipping internationally. (More about that below). I do ask that if you live outside of the UK that you be open to shipping internationally, as many of the participants are located in the United Kingdom however I know that sometimes that’s not an option and that’s okay too. I will do my absolute best to make it all work out.
So am I exchanging with the same person I am sending a box to?
Yes! This time we are changing things up and you will be exchanging with the same person you are sending a box to.
What kind of charm do I need to send?
You can get ANY kind of charm, Simple, flashy, subtle, something neutral or colorful. You can find it anywhere – I just ask that they are new portable. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself – this can be a trinket that you personally adore that you think someone else would love.
What happens if I send a package but never get one back?
Ugh, guys, it does happen, I have to be honest. It doesn’t happen often but there are definitely a small handful of women each exchange that are subjected to a lost box, a flakey partner, or some other sort of weird circumstance. I will do my best to reach out to your sender once or twice but sometimes due to the sheer volume of participants, it just becomes impossible to make sure everything gets straightened out. This is one reason why I have found partners to be easier to have, more accountability and an immediate contact if you haven’t seen your box show up. From the very beginning of the exchanges I have warned participants that you have to come into this exchange with the understanding that you may not get a box. It stinks that there are some people that might taint this experience but I do promise that it is far and few between. I am a firm believer that it is a blessing to give and if you are one of the few unfortunate few that doesn’t receive anything, just know that your gift has blessed someone else. So please understand the risks involved but know that you likely won’t have a problem! In exchange for my time coordinating this, I just ask that you follow through with your commitment to send a package, sound good? 🙂
Can I share this on my blog/with my instagram followers/on facebook/twitter/etc?
Of course! We LOVE new participants and their friends. They don’t need to be a follower of my blog or instagram account (@fitness_and_fertility) to participate. Anyone in the infertility community is welcome to join in. We will be using the hashtag #TTCLuckyCharmexchange so feel free to share and let’s spread the love!
What are the dates I need to know in order to participate?
You will need to sign up no later than Monday 4th August. That’s a FULL 3 weeks of time to sign up, spread the message and start brainstorming. You will then receive your exchange partner from me via email on either August 5th/6th (Because of the hours it takes to coordinate, I am not always able to get ALL the emails out on the same day. So if you see someone post that they got their person and you have not yet heard from me, it’s likely due to the amount of time it’s taking me to email everyone back. Do not panic!) Once you receive your person, you will have until August 21st to put together your or package and mail it out. Please make sure if you sign up that you are able to get your box out on time.
What happens when I get my package?
This is the fun part! I would LOVE to see all of the posts where people show off their package! Post your charm to social media and tag it with #TTCLuckyCharmexchange so we can all peruse the pictures. Send a shout out to your person, blog about it, tweet about it, do whatever you want to celebrate this fun exchange! I do understand too that there are many women who are not publicly sharing their infertility journey with others so know that you don’t have to share it publicly in order to participate. The key thing is that we offer encouragement and support to one another, even if that circle stays small. If you tag me in your photo on Instagram, I should be able to see it, even if your account is set to private. Also, I will host a link-up blog spot in September so that we can see the packages as well!
Enough FAQ’s! HOW DO I SIGN UP!!?!
Alright, here is how you sign up!
1. Email me the following info to firstname.lastname@example.org NO LATER THAN Wednesday, August 4th– PLEASE MAKE SURE ALL THESE ITEMS ARE IN YOUR EMAIL:
Your full name, first and last
Your full address (please remember to include your postcode so I don’t have to google)
Your blog/twitter handle/IG name (be specific which is which)
Your willingness to ship internationally (just write YES if you are willing and NO if you are not)
NEW: What general category you fall into – (A) trying to conceive, adopt, secondary infertility – all using the variety of ways to start a family (B) expecting – pregnant/adoption matched/carrier pregnant (C) – recently had a new family member join your family. If you feel that you fit in multiple categories, please simply use your best judgement.
I will close the exchange at midnight on the 4th and will not be able to accept stragglers after that.
2. Wait to hear back from me! I WILL CONFIRM THAT I HAVE RECEIVED YOUR SIGN-UP EMAIL. If you do not hear from me within 48 hours, please check the email address you send it to and resend. (Also, check your spam filter to make sure my reply didn’t go there). If you have emailed and still haven’t heard back from me, leave a comment below with your email and I will connect with you.
3. Share! Let your friends know about the exchange! You can share my blog or instagram account so that they can find out more information. I feel awful when someone finds out “too late” and can’t participate so help me make sure no one gets left out. Again, use #TTCLuckycharmexchange to share – the more the merrier! Link up below if you post about it to your blog! We will do another link up once the package window is open.
4. Shop, write, smile and carry your charm! Once assignments go out, shop and send out your package with an encouraging note. Then wait patiently and enjoy your charm once it arrives. Share the thoughtfulness of your new friend! I have seen so many amazing friendships form as a result of this exchange. Phone numbers are swapped, emails are exchanged – I have even seen friends plan trips to visit one another due to the friendship formed over a simple package! I LOVE THIS PART!
That’s it guys! I am so excited for this. These exchanges are among the highlight of my year and I am pumped! YIPPEE!!!!